Have you every found yourself having the most perfect day, I mean everything flows wonderfully and all is in synch with The Universe but then you can’t help but feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop? And even when it doesn’t, you find yourself creating your own chaos and drama so you can have something to say “See? Nothing every goes perfectly wonderful!” Sometimes we just have to catch ourselves slipping, get out of our heads, and stop ourselves from stealing our own Joy.
The Four Agreements is a book I have literally bought dozens of times. There are dozens of people with this book on their shelves gifted by Stacy Lee-Williams. My very own copy is probably the most doggy eared, highlighted, underlined book I own and I still go back to it at least 2-3 times a year. It’s a game changer.
The Four Agreements really consist of 16 words! Yes, 16 words that can change your life.
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
These 16 incredible words, if you stay conscious and present to live by them can change your life forever. Staying conscious and present is hard though. We sometimes let our trauma becomes our drama and the ego takes over and before you know it, you’re spinning out of control. My personal favorite of these agreements and the one I have the hardest time with is agreement number 2. “Don’t Take Anything Personal”
This happened to me the other day. I woke up predawn – a time of day that I love because its still quiet and I can hear the birds waking up and singing their morning songs, I meditated, did a sunrise yoga set, went down to the garage and got a quick burn in and I did a load of laundry while I swept up the house, dust the mats and open the windows – all things I love. I went to work and put in a productive few hours, went to The Salt Cave for a salt therapy session they were running a special on (and had the entire cave to myself) and still got off before the rush hour traffic to a smooth ride home. I had a beautiful afternoon until I found a trivial annoyance to get me so upset that I discounted the entire day and got so into my ego and feelings I was angry. Let me just say, I created this trivial annoyance, that I was annoyed at and got so caught up in my emotions about.
Then I caught myself, I actually took a moment, got present and caught myself. We can’t change the past, we may not even be able to control our triggers but we can get present, take a look at it and choose how to react. My anger that day was an epic fail – on my part – to myself – I failed myself, however acknowledging, owning it and working to be better is growth. Don’t let your trauma be your drama. Don’t give up on yourself and please don’t continue to live in your box. On the other side of it, beyond the comfort zone, beyond the uncomfortable place of admitting you are wrong and working to be better is such peace and joy and self love. I am grateful for the wisdom to know the difference.